Despite what you might’ve read in the papers or seen on television, there is absolutely no bias in favour of mothers. Separation Agreements can be important instruments in helping couples come to an agreement regarding their areas of dispute.  These days the courts will bend over backwards to make sure that any, and stress any, non-resident parent gets to keep in touch with their children.  Contact Orders can be sought from the court to set out the terms upon which a parent can have contact with his/her children. The biggest obstacles to contact are however, domestic violence and abuse within the family home and sometimes a lengthy prior history of non-involvement.

The law says that married couples share parental rights and responsibilities in relation to their children. One of the key decisions is going to be "Who do the children live with?" The court can provide what is called a Residence Order in this situation. Divorce does not change that.  Couples are expected by the courts to make their own arrangements for children on separation and divorce.  Many couples manage this without ever needing to see a lawyer.  However, sometimes even specific issues need to be resolved by the court. They can do so by issuing a Specific Issue Order.

We have provided some information and links to useful sites to help you keep the children informed and gain some support for yourself.

USEFUL LINKS FOR YOU AND THE CHILDREN 

They try to make sure parents who live apart from their children contribute financially to their upkeep by paying child maintenance.

The only Law Centre in Scotland that works exclusively for children and young people. We provide services throughout the whole of Scotland.

The leading UK charity specialising in international parental child abduction.
 

In Scotland the ChildLine service is provided by Children 1st on behalf of the NSPCC. Registered charity numbers 216401 and SC037717.

Its not your fault 
Very child friendly website maintained by the NCH for children, young people and separating parents.

 

English website full of useful information regarding the emotional, financial, health side of divorce. Not just for the children.

there4me.com
General site for 12-16 year olds who are worried about something – it includes message boards for young people to share their concerns, and the option to talk to an NSPCC adviser. Maintained by the NSPCC.

 

Website from the USA with advice and help for children to assist with coping with their emotions at this time.

 

BBC Website offering advice and coping strategies for young people during a divorce.